Sunday, October 4, 2009

More On Friendships

Warning: When you decide to end a friendship, be prepared for the ramifications.
People will react to the changes they see and the words they hear from you.
I neglected to consider the additional heartbreak experienced upon seeing those with whom I’ve severed friendships.
I’m learning, albeit painfully, that it’s not easy letting go of people because I believe they do not care about me. As hard as it is to have an unrequited friendship with such people, it’s even harder to have no connection at all.

Should we apologize and beg for forgiveness for ending the friendship? After all, isn’t any relationship better than nothing?

Or should we stick to our guns, and not only maintain our decision to end these friendships, but never let anyone in again, thus avoid being hurt so deeply in the future?

Actually, I believe there is a middle ground. If someone repeatedly (whether intentionally or not) causes more pain than love, for your sake and theirs, move on. Remember the blessings from your connection, let go of the pain, and be thankful for the season you had them in your life.

Then recognize season’s end. Sad, but this is what indicates growth. When one season ends, another begins. New friendships, fresh new beginnings! Embrace them!

Let go of what you outgrow. Never settle. Always be open to love.

Ecclesiastes 3

A Time for Everything
1 There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
2 a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3 a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,

1 comment:

Carol said...

"After all, isn’t any relationship better than nothing?"

I agree with all that you wrote. Letting some "friends" remain in your life can make you crazy!!!

There are three kinds of friends, 2 of which are not really the type of friends you need to surround yourself with.

Let go of them and let God send you new ones..........the empty spot will be filled! :)+